You and your child’s other parent created a parenting schedule for a reason. If your co-parent ignores that schedule, it can throw off your own plans and even affect your children.
Of course, mistakes happen. However, if this behavior and tardiness is consistent it is disruptive not only for you, but for your child. So, what exactly can you do in this situation?
First, discuss the issue
If you run into disagreements or mishaps in your co-parenting journey, the first step should always be to talk with the other parent. Follow the conflict-resolution strategies you outlined in your parenting plan, and it could be possible to find a solution.
In some cases, a slight adjustment to the schedule can solve the problem. You can only determine that if you communicate with each other effectively.
Second, know your options
There are cases where communication leads nowhere, particularly if your other co-parent is stubborn – or even spiteful. They may brush off any attempt of yours to discuss the problem or find a solution. If you find yourself in this situation, it is beneficial to:
- Review the terms of your custody agreement and parenting plan, even if you have recently
- Understand North Carolina law, and look into the legal options available to you, such as holding the co-parent in contempt of court
- Move to revise the parenting plan or custody order if necessary
You may be hesitant to move forward with such steps or changes, and that is understandable. However, it is important to consider two things:
- Your children rely and thrive on a regular schedule. Addressing the issue of your co-parent’s constant tardiness is also in the best interests of your children, so they can return to a familiar arrangement.
- Your schedule deserves respect too. If you follow the parenting time schedule and respect your co-parent’s time, the least they can do is respect yours. Their continued disregard can throw off your work schedule, personal time and family time.
If your co-parent ignores the schedule, you have the right to take action. That will help you protect your children as well as your own peace.