Many divorcing parents look into establishing the “right of first refusal” in their custody arrangements. However, what does this condition mean?
Consider this example:
It is your ex-spouse’s time with the kids. However, an event has come up that requires their attendance, and they must arrange for someone to take care of the kids.
So, what must they do?
The right of first refusal means that your ex-spouse must reach out to you first. They cannot simply hire a babysitter to take care of the kids or even call a family member before asking you. The same goes for any childcare needs during your parenting time.
Essentially, this makes you the go-to person for childcare during the other parent’s parenting time. Of course, you may not always be available, but you have the right to be the first person asked.
Why consider including this?
Co-parents who get along might automatically reach out to each other in situations that require emergency childcare. However, parents who deal with consistent conflict might not.
Regardless of the relationship between co-parents, including the right of first refusal in your divorce decree and child custody agreement basically makes it a rule you both must follow.
As always, the key is communication
It may not be easy, but ensuring that you and your co-parent maintain open lines of communication will be critical. This step is helpful to succeed in co-parenting, but it also helps the right of first refusal to work effectively. If you and your co-parent keep each other in the loop about matters regarding your children, upholding this right and rule can be easier.
There are many factors you and your ex-spouse must address while establishing a custody arrangement in North Carolina. As you approach this process, you should take time to understand all of the details and terms you can include that will work best for your family and secure your child’s best interests.