In the last blog post, we discussed that protecting the parent-child relationship starts with you as the parents and your relationship with each other. That is the foundation, but what can you do to secure that relationship when it comes to your children?
In the end, it is about investment
There are steps North Carolina parents can take every day to fortify the relationship with their children post-divorce. They all center around the power of investment, including:
- Invest in time: The time during and following a divorce can be hectic. You are getting used to a new, unmarried life. Despite the busyness, prioritizing time with your kids will be an important step to protect that relationship. Every relationship benefits from quality time, after all. This can certainly include special, fun events. However, just spending time with your kids will also be important.
- Invest in your role: Divorce does not change the fact that you are still a parent. This role is one of the most important ones you will ever take on. So, that role – and, in turn, your children – should be a priority. After a divorce, it is especially important to remember this to avoid the risk of parentification.
- Invest in them: When you have the kids, make sure you are present. Not just physically, but mentally and emotionally. Reduce distractions, especially phones, when you are together. Actively listen to your kids and show interest in what they have to say. Of course, you did this before the divorce. But maintaining that investment in them and their lives is critical to keep developing that special relationship with them.
Navigating the waters of parenting post-divorce requires daily effort and commitment. Actively investing in this relationship and in your parenting time every day can help to protect your children as well as the bond you have with them now and in the future.