Parents naturally worry about their children and the future of the family. If they get a divorce, those worries can multiply, and they find themselves worried that their individual parent-child relationships will be at risk. So, what can North Carolina parents do to secure that relationship?
Parents: It starts with you and your relationship
It comes as no surprise that you serve as a role model for your children. Therefore, how you approach the relationship with your ex-spouse will help both of you foster and protect that loving, special relationship with your kids. The most important steps to take will often include:
- Treating each other respectfully: It does not always matter if you and your ex-spouse do not see eye to eye. You must, at the very least, remain civil with each other when you interact in front of your children. This can prevent your children from feeling they should take a side or internalize the negativity.
- Avoiding conflict in front of the kids: Seeing their parents argue – or badmouth each other – can often be what causes kids the most harm during the process of a divorce. Many studies have found that high-conflict divorces can leave children dealing with mental health struggles.
- Support the relationship with your ex: This often sounds easier than it is. Even if you and your ex-spouse are on good terms, dividing time with your children can be difficult. You may even waver between sadness and jealousy when the kids are with their other parent. However, you must actively encourage their relationship with your ex.
Why are these steps so important? Your children watch your every move. If you and your ex-spouse actively work to foster a civil relationship with each other, find some level of common ground and form a united front, you can both better safeguard your relationships with your children. They will see that you respect their other parent – of which they are an extension.
Of course, even if this starts with you, it is about the parent-child relationship. In part two of this post, we will discuss the tips to actively engage with your children to protect that bond.