“Irreconcilable differences” is a common phrase in divorce. It is exactly what it sounds like, usually meaning spouses face such significant differences and disputes, that they wish to end the marriage.
However, it is also such a broad term, covering a wide range of issues. We will break it down to explain some of the most common issues that can fall under this term, and broaden your understanding.
One incident might be “irreconcilable”
One common incident leading to divorce is a spouse’s infidelity. In many cases, the spouses simply cannot find common ground again, or as the term suggests, reconcile. The infidelity of one spouse could leave the other reeling, and irretrievably break down any trust in the relationship.
It is critical to note that North Carolina is still a no-fault divorce state. Therefore, while it is common to list “irreconcilable differences” as the reason for divorce, spouses cannot establish any kind of fault in the divorce. This is true even if a spouse was unfaithful.
“Differences” often play a major part
There are some differences that can be too much to overcome in a relationship. For example, these frequently include:
- Financial differences: As we have discussed in previous blog posts, differences in financial values have become a leading cause of disputes in marriages – and even a common reason for divorce.
- Personal differences: This is another broad category under irreconcilable differences. This could range from differences in personal values or even future goals. For example, some parents over 50 may find that, once their children move out of the house, they no longer have anything in common with their spouse. In other cases, there might be a significant difference between the spouses’ levels of commitment to the relationship or even to parenting.
Of course, both the differences listed above and irreconcilable matters such as infidelity all fall under the loaded term of, “irreconcilable differences.” You may have tried to breach the gap between these differences and reconcile. Unfortunately, it is not always possible. Seeking a divorce can help spouses in these situations to move forward with their lives.