Getting a divorce is a big decision. It is not one that anyone takes lightly either. After all, it is one decision that can completely change your life.
When first considering a divorce, many people wonder if they are ready or if they are making the right choice. To help, here are three personal steps you should consider taking before you make this big decision.
1. Check in with your emotions
Our emotions play a big role in our relationships. It is very important to consider the state of your emotions as you debate getting a divorce. For example, feeling unhappy in your relationship or indifferent to your spouse for a long time could be signs that you are no longer emotionally invested in this relationship.
2. Check in with your relationship
In addition to your personal emotions, you should consider the relationship as a whole as well. There is a lot that goes into the foundation of a relationship. These building blocks include, but are not limited to:
- Respect
- Trust
- Communication
Does your relationship lack these three factors? Is it lacking emotional and physical intimacy? These might be signs that the relationship is breaking down.
The presence of stress and constant arguing – or perhaps even the opposite, where spouses ignore each other completely – are also common signs of concern in the relationship. Do a deep dive and evaluate your relationship. It can help to consider the questions posed by Verywell Mind while you do this.
3. Check in with your efforts
Relationships also require commitment. It is important to consider if you have made the commitment to try and fix the issues in your marriage and save the relationship. This might involve:
- Communicating your stress and concerns with your spouse
- Seeking help from a professional, such as a family therapist or a marriage counselor
If you have put in the work, and it does not resolve the issues or your spouse refuses to address them at all, then it may be time to consider the path forward in ending the marriage. This is never an easy choice or process, but carefully considering your situation before you act is critical.