It is no secret that the process of getting a divorce is not easy. It can be difficult for spouses to know what they should or should not do when it comes time to go their different ways.
From the time a decision to separate is made until the divorce is final, newly-single people can go a little crazy. Mistakes made during this time of separation can come back to bite you. Tips regarding what you should avoid during the separation period include:
- Posting on social media: According to Pew Research Center, seven in ten Americans have social media accounts. Many people use these accounts to keep in touch with friends and family and post updates about their lives. However, it might be better to avoid posting any details of the separation or divorce to protect your privacy and reduce your stress. It also helps you avoid posting something you may regret, or something a spouse could use against you during the divorce process.
- Criticizing your spouse: You should not only avoid criticizing your spouse on social media, but also in person. Continuing old arguments can negatively affect the future of your co-parenting relationship, as well as the family dynamics overall. It also helps to take extra precautions and avoid speaking negatively in front of the children about the other parent.
- Spending too much: This is one of the key tips from Forbes for separated spouses. Whether or not you still have combined financial accounts, overspending can lead to financial issues in the future or even accusations of dissipating assets before the divorce and the property division process.
- Dating other people: Even if spouses separate, they are still legally married. While dating after separation in North Carolina is permitted, it is important to consider how dating while separated or during the divorce proceedings may complicate many aspects of the divorce and your family members’ lives.
Should you have a separation agreement?
Although North Carolina law does not require spouses to have separation agreements before they divorce, it can be incredibly beneficial to create some ground rules for both spouses to follow during the separation period. Separation agreements can address many issues, including child custody, child support, spousal support and equitable distribution. This helps ensure your family’s needs and best interests are met and it may also help to set expectations during this difficult time. Speak with a family law lawyer to understand your options.