It can be incredibly stressful if your child starts exhibiting behavioral problems. Of course, you may expect a certain level of defiance and boundary-pushing from your children, but consistent and extreme issues of acting out or melting down that disrupt daily life could be cause for concern.
After a divorce, parents may worry even more. So, what should parents do if they begin seeing behavioral issues after ending their marriage?
Be there for them, with a plan in place
It is true that some behavioral issues in children arise as a reaction to their parents’ divorce. However, it could stem from many issues, including mental health struggles, stress and even learning disorders. Regardless of the reason, you and your co-parent can:
- Get on the same page: Schedule a meeting to specifically discuss the behaviors you and your co-parent witnessed in your respective homes. Even if you and your co-parent have a cordial relationship, keep in mind to avoid laying blame for a child’s behavior. Focus on a solution, on the path forward.
- Make a plan: Once you have shared your observations, it may help to review some helpful sources that can inform you how to move forward. It may not be necessary to officially adjust your parenting plan or custody agreement under North Carolina law in this case. However, you may have to adjust some of your parenting styles and strategies, if only temporarily.
- Put the plan into action: Adhere to the strategy you prepare with your co-parent. Remember, like anything else – especially in parenting – you will not see results or changes in your child’s behavior right away. However, be consistent and persistent.
- Act with empathy: Behavioral issues are often rooted in emotion. While you and your co-parent must indeed address such behavior, it is most important to ensure your child knows you are there for them. Be empathetic and present with them as you work through this together.
Parenting can be tough. Adding emotional and behavioral questions into the mix can make it even more so, but making a plan can help your family handle even the most challenging situation together.