Even considering a divorce can be both challenging and stressful. To help manage that stress – and protect your family – you might hope to pursue an amicable divorce. However, is this possible?
To determine the answer posed above, it will help to answer the following questions.
What is your relationship like?
The general definition of “amicable” is friendly, or with goodwill. Therefore, even if there is some level of conflict, it could be possible to have an amicable divorce as long as both you and your ex-spouse are on fairly decent terms and act in good faith, even as you end your marriage.
An amicable divorce is likely not possible if:
- There is no goodwill or respect in the relationship
- There is high conflict in the relationship, or your ex is a high-conflict person
- Your spouse engages in abusive behavior, whether or not that is physical
If you or someone you love is in a dangerous or abusive household, it is possible to seek help. Call 1-800-799-7233 or text “Start” to 88788.
Do you still generally agree with each other?
Disagreement is natural, especially in a divorce. However, if you agree on more matters than you disagree, it is likely you can pursue an amicable divorce. For example, it will often help if you can find common ground on the following:
- How you will end the marriage
- How you will continue to raise your children
- How you will manage your property
You do not necessarily have to reach an agreement right away. As long as you can reach a settlement through negotiation or mediation, you can still move forward with an amicable divorce.
Is an amicable divorce a common goal?
It is often easier to stick to the principles of an amicable divorce if you and your spouse both want one. Even if you tend to face some disagreements, if you and your spouse are committed to keeping things amicable, that also could make it possible. For example, many parents commit to this route for the benefit of their children.
Many factors can determine how feasible it is to obtain an amicable divorce in North Carolina. You must carefully consider the details of your relationship and situation to understand if it is possible.