Co-parenting isn’t working. What do you do now?

For some unmarried parents, co-parenting is a good solution. They divide time with their kids and work together to a certain level to raise them in separate households.

However, a co-parenting arrangement might not be a solution that works for everyone. One parent might not follow the rules of the parenting agreement. In other cases, they might simply not be as cooperative as co-parenting often requires. What can North Carolina parents do if they are in this situation?

The 3 Cs to address when facing co-parenting challenges

The first thing to note if you are in this situation, is that it is not a failure if co-parenting does not work. It is a tough journey. So, it is understandable to come across obstacles. The steps you can take to manage these challenges include the three Cs:

1. Communication: Schedule a time to sit down with the other parent. Hopefully, you can have a productive conversation to figure out why co-parenting is not quite working. You can identify problem areas that you can work on. After all, co-parenting indeed requires effort and work from both parents.
2. Counseling: Seeking counsel might be an option you choose after having the initial conversation. In other cases, you might wish to have a neutral third party present when you have the conversation in the first place. Either way, seeking help through mediation or counseling services can help you discuss and work through the issues you are facing, as well as find solutions.
3. Change: If the problems cannot be resolved, it may be necessary to change the custody and parenting arrangement. For example, you can look into parallel parenting, or other types of parenting arrangements that reduce interactions between parents. This might be especially helpful if the major obstacle is conflict between you and the other parent.

If co-parenting is not working for you, then you must work to find solutions, whether that involves changing some rules and terms, or adjusting your arrangement. Considering these steps can help you determine what will work best for your family.