In a society that promotes instant gratification, patience is hard to come by. However, it is an important thing to practice during – as well as after – your divorce. In particular, you will likely have to practice patience on these three fronts:
With your kids
Every child is different. Therefore, there is no way of telling how long it will take your child to grow accustomed to the reality of the divorce and the aftermath. Verywell Family highlights how the first year after the divorce is often the hardest on kids since they have to get used to an entirely new routine, household and lifestyle.
There are many ways you can help support them during this transition period. For example, it often helps to check in with them and their emotional state regularly. However, patience will be a key factor throughout this time, so you can be there for your child.
Even if the relationship with your ex-spouse caused you a lot of stress, you may not feel happiness or relief immediately. As we have discussed in previous blog posts, it is actually natural to feel loss and grief after your marriage comes to an end.
The expectation versus the reality of what you feel can be frustrating. However, much like your children, you will also need time to adjust to and accept this new reality. Do not put too much pressure on yourself, and be patient.
With the arrangement
You will also have to grow accustomed to your new circumstances after a North Carolina divorce. It will take time – and patience – to get used to matters such as:
- Your new financial situation and budget after property division
- The job of co-parenting, and adhering to the parenting plan
- The reality of living on your own
Dealing with change can be challenging. On top of that, finding patience amid all the stress can be even more difficult. Maintaining patience in all of these situations will also take practice and commitment, but it can help you manage these changes in a healthy, effective manner.