“Take the high road,” is a common saying. It refers to “doing the right thing,” or approaching situations morally – particularly when these situations are stressful and challenging.
Navigating a divorce certainly counts as one of these stressful situations, regardless of whether North Carolina spouses face high conflict or not. It is not always easy to stick to a policy of taking the high road, but it can often be beneficial for you and your family as you move forward.
Three reasons the high road can help in divorce
The emotional complexity of ending a marriage can frequently leave both spouses feeling angry and ready to take the offensive. It may feel cathartic to argue, but it is often not productive, healthy or helpful during the process of your divorce.
If you are committed to taking the high road for your family, there are three potential benefits, including:
- You can protect yourself: Choosing to take the high road often involves avoiding badmouthing your ex-spouse or posting negative things on social media. These steps can actually protect you in the long run. After all, badmouthing or posting on social media can often negatively affect certain aspects of your divorce, especially in cases involving child custody.
- You can protect your mental health: The past can have a tight hold on you and your ex-spouse, even as you proceed to divorce. Old arguments and resentments can rear their heads, and your negative feelings can often interfere with negotiations or any interaction. If you stick with the high road, you can be a driving force to avoid or reduce such conflict. This often can leave you feeling better after interactions with your ex-spouse – and feeling better about yourself.
- It can protect the kids: Taking the high road also has benefits for your children. If you choose to do what is right for your children, you can help them navigate their emotions about the divorce while preserving both your relationship with them as well as their relationship with their other parent. Putting the children first and limiting parental conflict around them can help reduce the negative impacts divorce can have on children.
Sticking with this policy may be challenging, especially if your ex-spouse remains combative and negative. However, in the long run, it can help you and your family reach more sustainable outcomes after your divorce.