Thinking about getting a divorce is no small matter. Simply considering the prospect can feel daunting.
As we have discussed in previous blog posts, there are many steps to take to prepare yourself for a divorce, from understanding the legal requirements to securing your finances. However, there are other steps that you should not overlook even before beginning the official process of a divorce.
1. Consider the timing
Timing can play a larger role in divorce than many people might think. It is an important aspect to consider for two reasons:
- North Carolina legal requirements, such as the separation period
- How it could affect your personal life and your financial standings
Of course, there is no “right time” to divorce. Life is unpredictable. However, factoring it into your overall plan can help you prepare yourself.
2. Make privacy a priority
It is critical to get organized before beginning the process of a divorce. For example, you must obtain copies of important documents and it is helpful to create a detailed inventory of your separate and marital assets.
In addition to this, it is even more critical to protect your privacy. You should make sure you secure:
- Social media accounts and email
- Cellphone information
- Bank and credit card accounts
Maintaining privacy does not mean you are hiding anything. It is a starting point to establishing your own finances and protecting your digital assets as you move forward.
3. Remember: You are not alone
Considering a divorce can feel very isolating – even lonely. It is common to doubt your decision or feel lost as you navigate it alone.
However, you do not have to go through divorce alone. There are many support systems available outside of your friends and family, including:
- Divorce support groups
- Mental health or family counselors
- Legal advocates
They have experience with these matters and are available to help you. Many people hesitate to reach out for help, but it can make a big difference in this difficult time.