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With a co-parenting plan, details can make all the difference

On Behalf of | Sep 26, 2018 | Child Custody |

After going through a divorce or break up with your child’s other parent, it can feel like every conversation leads to an argument. It’s common for irrelevant issues to come up even when attempting to discuss parenting issues.

That’s where a parenting plan can help. These documents can defuse an argument before it starts, as it is something you’ve both agreed to. A good parenting plan must be in-depth and account for as many situations as possible, while maintaining a certain amount of flexibility. Here are some important details to include when creating a parenting plan:


Holidays are always one of the biggest sticking points for co-parents. Both want their child to spend time with their family and friends. It can lead to resentment and hurt feelings among whoever doesn’t win this argument. Creating a parenting plan can help with these issues. If you plan far enough in advance, you and your ex will most likely be able to find a compromise that works for both of you.

Sports or school activities

A wrestling meet or volleyball tournament can monopolize an entire weekend. Sometimes that can be a lot for one parent. Other times, one of you may be more invested in this aspect of your child’s life and want more chances to attend. Schools typically release athletic calendars in advance, which lets you sit down and discuss who can be there for all of your child’s athletic and school events.

An expiration date

Even with a perfect parenting plan, it’s important to schedule a time to revisit. This is where an expiration date can come in handy. It lets both parents rest easy knowing any aspects they aren’t thrilled about can be revised later. Creating an endpoint can also lead to a more willing attitude about compromises. If you’re planning for a year, that may seem more bearable. Planning to revisit can also eliminate unnecessary future litigation.

An in-depth plan around co-parenting your child can help with communication between you and your child’s other parent. It can also be a simple way to head off arguments about parenting issues before they start. By working together, compromise and teamwork can come to the forefront.

If you have any questions about creating a parenting plan or any other aspect around divorce, an experienced family law attorney can be a great resource.