Getting divorced doesn't happen like a marriage, where you go from being single to being married in the span of one ceremony. Divorce is a process that typically takes several weeks, and sometimes months.
Getting divorced is not easy and getting through the procedural steps to obtain the divorce judgment can be an enormous relief. Once the divorce is final, you can focus on your future and the next chapter of yourlife, whatever it may bring. For some people, part of starting this new chapter includes letting go of all that might tie them to their ex-spouse, including their names.
Increasingly, couples in their 50s and 60s are pursuing divorces. At this stage, parents often have their kids out of the house and couples closing in on retirement may have very different thoughts on how they want to spend that time. People have referred to this trend as "gray divorce."
According to a recent study, about one-quarter of new divorcees cited "disagreements about housework" as a main reason for getting a divorce. The study, which can be read about in more detail here, then suggests that hiring someone to do the housework (or deciding not to do it at all) could prevent conflict and make couples happier, thereby avoiding divorce.
Requests for alimony can be a highly combative issue in North Carolina divorces. In most cases, there is a sharp divide between divorcing spouses regarding whether alimony is appropriate. Even if they agree on that, they might not agree on the amount or the duration.
Countless studies attempt to link certain traits, behaviors or events to an increased risk of getting divorce. While interesting, these studies are not proof that an individual marriage with last or come to an end. That being said, they can give some perspective onto specific challenges divorcing couples might face.
When people think of a divorce, they might imagine a dramatic courtroom setting with a judge, objections and witnesses. However, in reality, many divorces are settled outside of court.
You remember the day you brought yours home, and the sleepless nights that followed. When he or she got sick, you visited doctors and worried over medication. You celebrate birthdays together and take holiday pictures together. Coming home from work to see that face makes every day brighter.
The divorce process can take much longer than you might expect, even in the most amicable cases. Between the separation requirements for a no-fault divorce (which is a full year in North Carolina) and the length of time it can take to resolve divorce-related issues, the fact is that a divorce can take longer than you expect.
One of the biggest mistakes people make when it comes to planning for divorce is to oversimplify the process. They might think it will be like getting married: sign some paperwork, make a statement and your legal status is changed. However, there are many reasons why divorce is more complicated, including the process of dividing marital property.