Couples across North Carolina plan weddings in summer and fall. If you are among these couples, then chances are you are doing a lot of wedding planning. You might be making plans for what to wear, who to invite and how you want your celebration to look.
There is a lot about divorce that catches some by surprise. People are frequently able to resolve matters through mediation, even though they might expect that their case would have to go litigation.Others may assume that one parent will get full custody when in reality, parents often share custody.
People traditionally think of men as less emotional and more pragmatic than women. Many people also assume men are the breadwinners in a family and play a less active role in the lives of their children than mothers do.
Most divorces involve conflict, but some are especially contentious. Fights might erupt at every stage of the conflict, and parties may not be able to have any conversation without one or both people getting angry.
Getting divorced doesn't happen like a marriage, where you go from being single to being married in the span of one ceremony. Divorce is a process that typically takes several weeks, and sometimes months.
Getting divorced is not easy and getting through the procedural steps to obtain the divorce judgment can be an enormous relief. Once the divorce is final, you can focus on your future and the next chapter of yourlife, whatever it may bring. For some people, part of starting this new chapter includes letting go of all that might tie them to their ex-spouse, including their names.
Increasingly, couples in their 50s and 60s are pursuing divorces. At this stage, parents often have their kids out of the house and couples closing in on retirement may have very different thoughts on how they want to spend that time. People have referred to this trend as "gray divorce."
According to a recent study, about one-quarter of new divorcees cited "disagreements about housework" as a main reason for getting a divorce. The study, which can be read about in more detail here, then suggests that hiring someone to do the housework (or deciding not to do it at all) could prevent conflict and make couples happier, thereby avoiding divorce.
Requests for alimony can be a highly combative issue in North Carolina divorces. In most cases, there is a sharp divide between divorcing spouses regarding whether alimony is appropriate. Even if they agree on that, they might not agree on the amount or the duration.
Countless studies attempt to link certain traits, behaviors or events to an increased risk of getting divorce. While interesting, these studies are not proof that an individual marriage with last or come to an end. That being said, they can give some perspective onto specific challenges divorcing couples might face.