When people think of a divorce, they might imagine a dramatic courtroom setting with a judge, objections and witnesses. However, in reality, many divorces are settled outside of court.
You remember the day you brought yours home, and the sleepless nights that followed. When he or she got sick, you visited doctors and worried over medication. You celebrate birthdays together and take holiday pictures together. Coming home from work to see that face makes every day brighter.
The divorce process can take much longer than you might expect, even in the most amicable cases. Between the separation requirements for a no-fault divorce (which is a full year in North Carolina) and the length of time it can take to resolve divorce-related issues, the fact is that a divorce can take longer than you expect.
One of the biggest mistakes people make when it comes to planning for divorce is to oversimplify the process. They might think it will be like getting married: sign some paperwork, make a statement and your legal status is changed. However, there are many reasons why divorce is more complicated, including the process of dividing marital property.
The first working Monday after the holiday season is dubbed "Divorce Day" for a reason. Many couples choose to forgo filing for divorce until after the holidays have ended. Some wanted to make a few more family holiday memories while others found the stress that comes with this time of year provided that final push towards divorce.
In a divorce, you divide not only your shared assets but also your shared debts. That said, even if your divorce agreement says your ex is now responsible for certain debts, your creditors have no reason to let you off the hook. Creditors are not a party to your divorce agreement, so legally they don't have to abide by what your agreement or order says about who is responsible. This is why any agreement or order should clearly specifies what will happen if your spouse defaults on their financial obligations and how you will be protected.
"The best interests of the child." It's a phrase heard in family courts across the nation, including here in North Carolina. But what does it mean? This legal standard leaves a lot up to interpretation for courts and for parents. Unfortunately, when it comes to certain issues like education, religious beliefs, and medical care, some parents have wildly different opinions on what is in the best interests of their child and what isn't.
Tax reform is often a hot topic in the media. Media hosts and guests debate on how these proposals will impact the population. Who will pay less, who will pay more? One debate currently circulating throughout news stories involves the potential for the current proposal to impact those who are going through a divorce.
It seems that every day, a new study or report comes out attempting to predict or explain divorce. In reality, though, these studies are likely not going to prevent a divorce, and no one should make decisions about their marriages and relationships based on statistics.
No one ever wants to go through divorce. But for many couples in North Carolina, this is the only solution after years of fighting and unhappiness. Just because a marriage is dissolving, however, doesn't mean a couple has to go through traditional divorce proceedings in court. In fact, mediation can offer a better experience if couples are willing to take on the challenge.